1. End the Affair
You can't even begin to heal and reconcile with your partner until you've severed all ties with your affair partner. If you are sincerely determined to reunite with your significant other, the first step is to cease any affair and stop communicating with him or her. Let your affair partner know you don't want to hear from him/her again, and delete his or her contact information from your phone, email, social media, and anyplace else you might have it.
2. Make a Sincere Apology
You must truly apologize for what you did. This is not the moment to excuse your behavior toward your spouse. Instead, you need to accept full responsibility for your conduct and express your honest sorrow. Tell your companion, "I am quite aware that I have caused you much pain, and I will do all in my power to repair our connection. I sincerely apologize, and I'd want to discuss how we can move ahead." Make a genuine apology rather than a phony one. Any insincerity will be detected by your spouse, so apologize from the heart rather than from a sense of guilt.
3. Give Him/Her Space
Your apologies may not be accepted right away, and you should allow your spouse to process his/her thoughts before approaching him/her again. Giving him or her space demonstrates your love and respect for your partner. In that case, he or she will have the opportunity to recover or figure out whether he/she wants to continue in the relationship.