1. No Cheating
Basically, a perfect romantic relationship involving more than two people is impossible because love requires one’s commitment, honesty, companionship, and communication. When cheating occurs, one is distracted and his/her partner will feel neglected. Then quarrels and conflicts follow. More importantly, fidelity is the basic principle in a healthy relationship. Cheating is an act of betrayal: it hurts one’s partner when found out, of which the consequences can range from an end of the relationship to horrible violence. Just think about the CBS serial Why Women Kill and you can get the image. Even if forgiveness is shown, it will still destroy trust. At that time, a tiny trace can cause the other person to be jealous and skeptical: he/she will doubt any explanation even if it is a fact, and that marks a deteriorating relationship.
2. No Superiority
Regarded inferior, one’s partner will be treated accordingly. Practically, the nether one is more of an assistant who needs to serve and please the other. For example, if a husband earns more than his woman, it is more likely that the woman will take care of more chores. Mentally, the opinion that one’s boyfriend/girlfriend is not equal to him/her will inhibit their communication. If a younger man is labeled as childish, his girlfriend may at first find his jealousy, dependence, and innocence cute, but in the long run, she may be tired of explaining everything to him and spending too much time together. Only equality can make people feel respected and cared for in a relationship.
3. No Excessive Attachment
Everyone needs private time so too much dependence and attachment may sometimes be counterproductive in intimate relationships. Of course, closeness and togetherness are what people expect from love, but rest is needed from time to time. Otherwise, tiredness will occur, which may tear the couple apart. Besides, when one puts romance over personal growth and expansion, he/she may stop attracting his/her partner. Instead of focusing only on what the other one is doing, people in relationships should also concentrate on themselves and try to be their better selves.
Healthy relationships are based on fidelity, equality, communication, and independence. As long as you define your relationship as unhealthy, run away from it!